Football Season is Upon Us!

As the world knows, football season is finally here! And in the south, that means college football dominates our TV’s on Saturdays. Fall is my favorite season of them all…and you know it’s arrived once Starbucks starts carrying pumpkin spiced lattes and your schedule now revolves around college game day. I don’t hate it.

Unfortunately, Matt and I are devoted to two different teams. Alabama (#1, obviously, the best, my namesake, and my heritage) and Florida (they’re okay, I guess 🙂 ) At least we’re in different divisions and we only play each other every 3-4 years, but we still enjoy a good trash-talk now and then. The truth is we cheer for each other’s teams UNLESS they’re playing each other, and then, all bets are off. Full fledged rivalry goes down at the Renney house.

So since we finally have a house of our own this football season, it was time for a little……..team spirit.

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I have one FINE looking husband, ya’ll. No shame.

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I thought it was perfect just like that. He didn’t seem to agree.

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But look at that look of pure joy on his face. I just can’t deny him that.

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There’s literally no denying which house is ours…As soon as you turn on the street, BAM!

Both of our teams won their opening games (even though Alabama looked pathetic compared to what they’re capable of) and we had a lot of fun welcoming college football season back again.

Three-peat anyone?? ROLL TIDE 🙂

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Celebrating Two Years of Marriage!

Since January, Matt and I had been planning our two-year anniversary trip to Destin, FL and the first week in June we got to go! I was so unbelievably excited. Destin has always had a special place in my heart because my grandparents had a place there when we were kids that they had to sell about 10 years ago. I hadn’t been back since then, and so I was very eager to show Matt around the old stomping grounds and make new memories with him there!
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I’ve always loved the white sandy beaches of Destin and the beautiful blue green water. There’s nothing more relaxing than laying on the beach listening to the waves.

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The condo we found was AWESOME. It was a one bedroom, one bath condo within walking distance of the beach and it was so cute and cozy on the inside! I’d highly recommend this condo to anyone who wants to go visit there. If you want the details of it and how to book it, I’d be happy to get it for you. The owners were fabulous to work with and the condo was immaculate.

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This king sized bed was insanely comfortable. Nuff said.

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Our first day on the beach was perfect. The waves were a good size and the weather was beautiful. Our condo even had beach chairs and an umbrella for us to use so we got to take breaks from the sun when my pasty white skin couldn’t handle it anymore.

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I took my Dove chocolate very seriously on this trip. I couldn’t have agreed more with this sentiment. I believe it was 100% accurate.

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Matt doesn’t eat seafood, but I told him it was a priority for me to get some fresh seafood while we were at the beach. He did not disappoint. We went to The Crab Trap our first night and I got coconut shrimp. It was DELICIOUS.

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We also have a tradition of ALWAYS getting donuts while we are on vacation. Okay, maybe that’s just MY tradition. I don’t think Matt would care if we forgot. But when I saw that Krispy Kreme Hot Now sign on, I literally gasped and made Matt turn the car around. Yes, it’s that important, people.

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Look, I’m all about being healthy, and I know donuts have ZERO nutritional value, but seriously, has there ever been a more beautiful sight? Sometimes you just gotta throw caution to the wind and embrace the sugar. Mmmm…..

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Seriously it made my night. And of course we bought extra for breakfast the next day!

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Speaking of the next day, and for irony’s sake, I actually took Jillian Michael’s 30 Day Shred with me on vacation and I actually DID it! After my donuts of course 🙂 I was so proud of myself. Granted, I had planned to do it every day of vacation and I ended up only doing it once, but hey, that’s better than I can usually say.

The next day we went to the beach again, but unfortunately there was a double red flag so there was no getting in the water for us. BUT, that night we were so excited to get to meet up with our friends, Cosbie and Caitlin! They were in town with her family for vacation about 20 minutes from us, so we decided to make a double date night out of it and do something that we normally don’t even find time to do at home!

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After two attempts, this was still as good as it was going to get. Poor picture quality, for the win.

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After dinner we decided to go putt putt. I love talking smack with Matt when it comes to any kind of competition, even though there is a 99.4% guarantee he will ALWAYS beat me when it comes to anything competitive.

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Caitlin and I had a strange fascination with these fish. We seriously stood there and watched them longer than any kids that passed by.

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What is a date night without dessert? What is vacation without dessert EVERY NIGHT is the better question. After putt putt we hit up this awesome frozen custard stand. I could eat frozen custard over frozen yogurt, ice cream, or sorbet any day. It’s THAT good.

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And to further prove my point that dessert is always worth it on vacation, I opened up my sweet little Dove chocolate to this blessed reassurance.

On our last full day, we decided to go pier fishing. We wanted to go deep sea fishing on this trip but decided it really wasn’t the most cost efficient this time around. So we drove over to the pier and rented some poles, bought some squid (gross) and went to town. Matt has more experience fishing than I do, but if we’re being honest, we’re both completely lost when it comes to this skill.

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We had a lot of fun trying to pretend like we knew what we were doing and trying not to be jealous of the other people who were constantly catching fish while we just waited. And waited. And waited.

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While we were waiting we did get to see a few dolphins swimming around though!

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Every time I see a picture of myself with my hand on my hip I feel like I need to apologize. I wonder if/when this fad will no longer be the standard pose for every girl under the age of 30. I’m all about the skinny arm, but I believe we can all agree that this pose has gotten a little out of control.

ANYWAY, that night we decided to lay low, grab a $5 hot-n-ready pizza and have a game night. Remember how I said Matt beats me in anything competitive 99.4% of the time?? Well this is where the .6% came working in my favor! Literally, I beat him at every game we played that night. One round of Monopoly Deal and six games of Sequence. It was beautiful.

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In his defense, he did finally beat me one time. But overall, my Dove chocolate didn’t lie again.

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The next morning we had to pack up and head back home. But before we left, we drove around and found the exact place of my grandparent’s park that their trailer was in. We didn’t even realize it, but the condo we were staying in was .4 of a mile from theirs. I was so so so excited that we found it.

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I know that this was the exact location because that tree right there was planted by my parents and I remember it being MUCH smaller. Now after 20 years or so you can see how much it has grown.

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There are so many memories in that park right there. What I wouldn’t give to be able to re-live those days with my family, grandparents, and brothers.

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We decided to go for one more walk on the beach before we left. It was an amazing trip. Just what we needed after Matt’s crazy school year. I am so thankful that we got to celebrate being married two years in a place that has meant so much to me over the years.

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It blows my mind that we’ve been married for two years. I know that that is nothing compared to so many who have gone before us, but they really aren’t kidding when they say it flies by. Being married to your best friend is God’s greatest gift this side of heaven and I can’t imagine going through life without Matt. He has been the most amazing husband and I thank God for him every day. We have had ups and downs of course, but through it all, Jesus is our Rock and the foundation that we remain grounded in. I’m so excited to see what the Lord has in store for us in the future and I am so grateful that He has allowed us to take this journey together!

Happy Anniversary, Sweetheart! I love you.

Practicing Gratefulness

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I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. When you buy a new house, there is a constant battle that goes on in your mind with all of your new wants, and striving to be content with what you have. It’s a natural thing to want to furnish a home and set it up as cozy and comfortable as possible. And there’s nothing wrong with that as long as you don’t start to idolize those desires. It’s been a fun process of deciding what’s most important to buy first and what things can wait.

Matt and I decided living room furniture was next on the list because we currently have one couch in our living room (that we dearly love) but that doesn’t leave a lot of room for guests to sit if we have them over. We’ve joked about having a BYOCC (Bring Your Own Camping Chair) policy if people want to sit anywhere but the floor or squished on the couch when they come over. So needless to say, we were so excited about saving up our money and buying new living room furniture.

Well……..we can dream right? Turns out our cars were feeling a little under the weather and needed to be taken care of. Unfortunately, they are rather needy cars and don’t settle for minor fixes. They require a lot of attention when they decide to stop working properly, leaving us with a major hole in our emergency fund. All that goes to say, the money that we thought was going to go towards new furniture has now been invested into our cars, so the BYOCC policy will have to remain in effect for a little while longer while we re-save.

SO, tonight I made a little chalkboard sign to remind us to be grateful. Because so often we can look at these circumstances and get really bummed out. So we needed a visual reminder to look on every day that we have been incredibly blessed.

To name a few things:

  • First and foremost, we have Jesus. The author and finisher of our faith who provides for our every single need.
  • Each other. God has blessed us with a wonderful marriage and a 2-year wedding anniversary coming around the corner.
  • Our family. We have the most incredible support system on both sides.
  • Our friends. God has given us lifelong friends that sharpen, encourage, and challenge us. As well as just making life fun.
  • Our church. We have an amazing church that preaches the Word and really lives like the Body of Christ.
  • A brand new house with a one year warranty on everything.
  • A vacation coming up that we’ve saved for for 6 months and is already completely paid for. Hallelujah.
  • The cars that we do have, no matter how problematic they may be, are both paid in full.
  • Food. We’re never without food or access to food.
  • Our health.
  • Our jobs and the fact that Matt’s on summer vacation!

AND about a billion more things. We are blessed. So when it comes down to it, gratitude really does turn what we have into enough. It changes our perspective and encourages us to use what God’s given us to be a blessing to others.

So tell me, what are you thankful for? How do you practically practice gratitude? I’d love to hear some of your ideas!

Three Years Ago

May 29, 2010 has such a special place in my heart. It was the day that the love of my life proposed to me and asked for my hand in marriage. I had just come home from college, and his sister had just graduated from high school. He planned an entire day for us with the cover of it being a day out for Christina as his graduation gift to her.

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We went to Helen, GA for the day and went to breakfast, played putt putt, got ice cream, went hiking up Amicolola Falls, and then went back to a cabin to get ready for “dinner” with his parents. Little did I know that while I was getting ready, he was transforming the cabin into a romantic setting to pop the question, complete with candlelight, pictures of us throughout the years, roses, and soft music.

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I really was in shock. He had gone all out. I never expected his proposal to be so extravagant. But he definitely took my breath away and made tears flow quite uncontrollably. I immediately knew what was going on and I couldn’t have been happier. He led me over to the table where he knelt down in front of me and read to me from a journal. He told me he loved me for the very first time and then asked if I would marry him. I had no doubts in my mind what my answer would be and quickly said yes! He pulled out the most beautiful ring I had ever seen and finally put that rock on my hand!

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Prior to our arrival at the cabin, his parents had delivered my favorite Italian meal, chicken parmesan, and had it stored in the cabinets. I would love to say we had a romantic dinner after this point, but I was so excited that I couldn’t even eat. All I did was cry, stare at my ring, and take pictures!

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After we got past the initial shock and celebration, we straightened up the cabin and headed back to Woodstock where he had all of our family and friends at my house for a surprise engagement party. The night just kept getting better and better and it will forever be etched in my memory as one of the best days of my life.

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Saying yes to marry Matthew James Renney was the easiest decision I’ve ever made. Up to that point he had slowly pursued me over the course of two years, writing me letters while I was away at school, praying diligently over our relationship, guarding my heart and protecting my purity. He loved me like Jesus does and I knew that by marrying him we were walking in obedience to what God has called us to in the life: to partner together to be a visual picture of Christ and His love for the church, and the church’s submission to Christ in the most harmonious relationship known to man. We fail often, but I’ve never doubted saying yes to this man. Happy Engagement Day Anniversary sweetheart! I love you dearly.

House Progress!

A few months ago I posted a brief blog about mine and Matt’s future house! The Lord has graciously allowed us the opportunity to be a part of a new construction community, meaning we get to watch our house be built from start to finish. Well…I have been slack in posting the progress so far and I know there are a handful of people out there (mostly my extended family) who would like to be in on those little details. So, this one’s for you, Aunt Linda 🙂

This is the first picture I posted of our property:

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The next time we went up there they had just gotten the underground piping, rods, plumbing, and that sort of thing done. So there is no picture of that because there was not a whole lot to see.

Then Christmas time rolled around and we were SO busy–we didn’t get a chance to go up to the house (it’s about 30 minutes from where we live now) for a few weeks. So when we took my parents to see it for the first time, we drove right past it because we didn’t recognize it with all the progress that had happened since the last time we were there!

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Matt standing on our staircase!

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When my family came up from Tampa we took them to see it too. We were excited to see our second floor coming together!

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I think it was ONE or TWO weeks later that we went back again and I was so excited to say we had a ROOF over our heads! It was so exciting because at this point the house realllllllly starts looking like a house and we can start envisioning ourselves being here very soon!

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My sweet husband letting me snap pictures of him inside our entryway 🙂

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This, ladies and gentleman is going to be the heart of the home: The Kitchen. Where we will have all of you over for dinner and coffee for some good quality laughs and memory making! 🙂

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Matt overlooking our backyard. I’m definitely planning on having my brother build a nice little pergola and an outdoor kitchen and entertainment area. Right, Jason?!

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IMG_0550Our MASTER CLOSET! Seriously. If you ever come over and can’t find me, look here first.

We are so excited to share the Lord’s goodness in our lives. We truly would not be in this position if it weren’t for His provision. AND thanks to my gracious parents who have let us take up half their home over the last 9 months so we could save money. THANK YOU, Mom and Dad, for helping our dream of buying a home come true. Our hearts truly want to use this home for God’s glory and to share in His goodness with others. He is SO kind and loving, and we pray that we will be able to extend those same attributes to all who enter our home.

Stay tuned for even more progress updates to come!!

The Beauty of Submission

SUBMIT, WOMAN!

Have you ever heard those words? Either meant seriously or in a joking manner? Probably every woman on the face of the planet has in the very least been acquainted with the idea of submission. In America especially, submission is VERY unpopular word. The concept makes many cringe at the thought. It seems outdated and male chauvinistic. BUT, please bear with me. I promise by the end of this post you’ll have a different perspective with which to think about submission. And you might just like it!

First, we have to ask: When did submission first come into play?

Some believe at creation, others believe it is a consequence of the Fall of Man, and others might believe that it came much later. But I’d challenge you to look at Scripture with me a little bit closer. Let’s collectively zoom into Genesis chapter 1 verse 1: “In the beginning, God created the heavens and the earth.” Stop. In the beginning, GOD. Now, lets move over to verse 26 of the same chapter: “Then God said, ‘Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness…” Do you see that? God said, ‘Let US, OUR.” Meaning none other than the Trinity. God the Father, God the Son (Jesus Christ) and the Holy Spirit. It is in THIS relationship that we FIRST see submission. Jesus submitted to the Father’s will when He willing gave up the treasures of heaven to come to earth to die on the cross for our sins. Before he faced the cross, He prayed, ‘My Father, if it is possible, let this cup pass from Me; yet not as I will, but as You will” (Matthew 26:39). He didn’t want to face the cross, but Jesus recognized that the outcome of His death would make a way for mankind to be reconciled to God, bringing His Father glory.

Let this be clear: Submission is NOT a result of the Fall. Before the entrance of sin, God put Adam in the garden of Eden to ‘cultivate it and keep it.’ (Gen. 1:15) After this, the Lord said ‘it is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him’ (1:18). Did you catch that? Role responsibilities before Eve was even created! Before sin ever entered the picture! Man was to cultivate the land and keep it (work, provide, protect) and Eve was to be his helper (help-mate, come along-side to help accomplish his God-given tasks, submit to his leadership).

Okay, that was a long intro, but I promise it was necessary to have a proper understanding of the submission concept!

Ask yourself:

How do YOU view submission? Has this changed over the years or since you got married? Is it harder or easier? For me personally, I believe submission to be necessary, right, and true but even more HARD. Submission is hard! But we practice submission every day in all kinds of various relationships:

  • employer/employee
  • government/citizen
  • parents/children
  • husbands/wives
  • God/creation

Yet which one do we fight the MOST? Husband and wife. We have to remember that husbands and wives are completely EQUAL in value and importance, we just have different role responsibilities. Genesis 1:27 says, “God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.” We are NOT in any way talking about a difference in value. God’s Word is exceptionally clear that men and women are created equally in His image. But just like a manager and an employee of a company are both vital to that company, they have to operate different roles and tasks in order for the company to run as smoothly as possible. Ephesians 5:22-23 reveals to us that God’s ultimate intention for headship and submission in marriage is to reflect the relationship of Christ and the church. “The husband is to mirror the sacrificial love of Christ by laying down his life for his wife, and the wife is to exemplify the church’s joyful submission to Christ by following her husband’s leadership” (138). God designed submission for His glory. When we recognize that, we experience far more blessings than if we are to continuously fight it.

So WHY do we fight submission? What in us makes submission so hard? Well, after the Fall, there were consequences. Right? Right. Genesis 3:16 lays out the woman’s specific consequences for her sin, “…Yet your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.” Mahaney puts it this way,

“The form and context of the word desire actually has a negative connotation–an urge to manipulate, control, or have mastery over. Because of the curse, we now have a sinful tendency to want our own way and to resist our husband’s authority” (140).

So in reality, the submissive wife, who is portrayed as weak-willed in our culture, is actually a model of inner strength. By God’s grace, she has conquered this opposition within her own heart. “It is actually weakness on display when a wife is not submissive; she is only caving in to her natural inclination to usurp authority and demand her own way. That doesn’t take any effort at all” (140).

I think the reason we buck up against submission is not because we don’t agree with the command, but rather because it is HARD. We would rather be lazy.

We have to get out of our lazy-rutt and act in obedience to God no matter how much we might not initially want to. It is the only way our marriages will perform as God intended them to.

Ask yourself: 

Do I make it difficult for my husband to lead? [Think about your attitude, countenance, sarcasm, leading yourself or trying to lead him, shooting down his ideas, brushing off his requests, etc.]

When I was a teenager, a friend of mine was telling me about how his mom was constantly complaining about how her husband didn’t step up and lead the family enough. His response was, “Well if you want him to step up, you have to step down and let him!” That has resonated with me ever since. Oftentimes as women (and women who have a more outgoing personality or tendency to lead especially) we like to take the reigns and run with them. But then we find ourselves wishing our husbands did more. But in reality, we have to check ourselves and see if we are actually the ones who need to step down in order for our husbands to step up. There’s not room for two in the pilot seat.

Also, we cannot blame our husbands for our lack of submission. Just like we wouldn’t want them to blame us for their lack of leadership. We each have responsibilities and we need to take care of the ones directed towards us. Remember, Titus 2:3-5 says, “…being submission to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored.” [emphasis mine]. As married women, we are not to submit to ALL men, but rather to our OWN husbands. One man. ONE MAN, ladies! We can do this!

As a disclaimer, I must add: There are no excuses to this mandate (see 1 Peter 3:1-6) but there are exceptions. We should NEVER follow our husband’s leadership into sin. God’s authority trumps theirs, so if your husband ever tries to lead you down a path that would dishonor God and go against His Word, do not submit. Seek counsel and help from a trusted outside source.

The bottom line is this: Do you trust God enough to lead your husband to lead you?

Susan Hunt puts it rather beautifully in her book, The True Woman:

“The true woman is not afraid to place herself in a position of submission. She does not have to grasp; she does not have to control. Her fear dissolves in the light of God’s covenant promise to be her God and to live within her. Submission is simply a demonstration of her confidence in the sovereign power of the Lord God.”

Remember ladies, Jesus is the embodiment of pure submission. Let’s emulate Him in our marriages to our husbands so that we, too, may glorify God in our obedience to the Father. This is true feminine appeal that draws a watching world to the gospel of Christ.

The Pleasure of Purity

First of all, my apologies for the delay in getting this posted. I’ve been crazy busy lately and haven’t made the time to make it happen! So without further ado…

“The Pleasure of Purity.”

“Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good, so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored.” -Titus 2:3-5

Usually when we think of the word “purity” we think of being pure before we are married, not having sex before marriage and guarding our thoughts before marriage. But in this passage, Paul is addressing the older women to teach the younger women who are married to be pure. So what does that mean? What does purity in marriage look like?

The Effects of Our Culture:

Unfortunately, “our culture has pushed marital sex into the backroom and instead celebrates immoral sex” (82). Just by watching TV, movies, or reading magazines, we get the impression that the only people having sex (or “good sex”) are the ones who aren’t married. Martial sex on the other hand is portrayed as bland and routine. God never intended for that to be the case.

God’s Purpose and Design:

Scripture actually encourages marital sex and has a good deal to say about it! Only God, in His infinite wisdom, could create sex and showcase His approval of it in marriage in an entire book of the Bible: Song of Solomon. (Not to mention the various other Scripture that speak to this topic.) Often times, in Christian homes, sex is portrayed as something to hide, something embarrassing, or something that is bad. However, Mahaney reminds us, “Our sexual desire is not evil because God Himself has created it. He is not embarrassed about our sexual nature, and neither should we be embarrassed.” God is the one who gives sexual desire, so He is the one who gets to define the boundaries, and His boundaries are confined to one man and one woman in a covenant marriage. These boundaries are for our good: to protect us and to bless us.

God designed us for intimacy. In Genesis 4:1 it says that “Adam knew his wife, and she conceived.” This word for knew refers to experiential knowledge. Sometimes I think to myself, “I feel like I didn’t even know my husband before we got married compared to how I know him now!” And that’s because it is when husband and wife are joined together in sexual intimacy that they can truly “know” one another. Mahaney describes it as the “highest form of the communication of love–a language that expresses love without words.” Each encounter leads us to a deeper “knowing” of the one we love. (84).

The Effects of Sin:

As wonderful as a gift as sex is, it is grossly polluted by sin. Sin has affected every area of our lives, including the sexual relationship. Sometimes that comes in the form of willful sin and other times it affects some as a result of another’s sin. But be assured  that no situation in your life is beyond the reach of God’s grace. He can beautifully redeem everything that might have been lost prior to a marriage relationship. Because of Jesus, even the most difficult or painful situation can be turned into a story of grace. And THAT is worth celebrating!

The Problem of Lust:

Past sin is not the only thing that can entangle us in our quest for purity. In fact, the most ongoing struggle we will face in this area is the problem of lust. “Sexual temptation is no respecter of persons. You can be male, female, young or old, rich or poor, single or married, happily married or unhappily married. No one is safe from this vice.(86)” Thankfully, we know the truth of Scripture teaches us in 1 Corinthians 10:13 that “no temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man; and God is faithful who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will provide the way of escape also, so that you will be able to endure it.”

We Must Resolve:

Because of our propensity to sin sexually, we must resolve, ahead of time, to walk in absolute purity. How do we do that? First and foremost, we must set our minds on things above (Colossians 3). If we are not replacing sinful thoughts with godly thoughts, we are already losing the battle. Next, we must MAKE NO PROVISION FOR THE FLESH. This is a huge one. We must ask ourselves, “When, where, and with whom are we most tempted to accommodate our flesh and gratify it’s desires?” (89). We should not read anything, watch anything, or listen to anything that arouses impure thoughts or compromises our biblical convictions. (Think: romance novels, magazines, chick flicks, TV shows, internet websites, etc.) Remember David’s commitment  in Psalm 101:2-3 was to walk in his house with a blameless heart and set no evil thing before his eyes. We must commit to do the same. We must be honest and pursue accountability in this area. Only then, can we expect victory in the battle of lust.

Now, for MARRIED women only:

One key to pursuing purity in our marriages is to pursue an exciting sexual relationship with our husbands. When you eat on a regular basis, you’re less likely to binge on something unhealthy. Think about it.

  • Be attractive in your husbands eyes alone. Discover what clothing, hairstyles, and make up he finds most appealing, and cultivate that. “We should give the same careful attention to our physical appearance after marriage as we did before.” However, more important than any outward presentation, is the pursuit of a gentle and quiet spirit. (1 Peter 3:3). Growing in godly character is the most attractive quality to our husbands.
  • Be available. Scripture makes it very clear that our bodies belong to our spouse. “We are to give ourselves without qualification and not withhold the pleasure of sex. The only exception to this rule is for the activity of prayer, by mutual agreement and for a limited time. Mahaney quoted a man that said he observed that, “I’ve heard many excuses for not having sex–not in the mood, headache, too tired, don’t have time. Prayer and fasting has never been one of them.”
  • Lastly, be anticipatory. Use your mind to prepare for sex throughout the day. “God has furnished us with imaginations, and we should use them to ‘day dream’ about our husbands.” Carve out time in your schedule for sex and initiate it every once in a while!

Remember, God was the one who created sex in the first place, for our pleasure and for His glory. Do not neglect His wonderful gift. He will reward our obedience in every area of our lives, including this one.

[I realize how lengthy this “review” was, and for that I apologize. But I felt it was a necessary topic to cover thoroughly for any woman who might be reading this who is not in the weekly discussions. If you need to seek accountability in this area or would like for me to pray for/with you, please don’t hesitate to contact me at crimsonrenney@gmail.com]

Transformed by Titus 2

This fall the Lord has graciously allowed me the opportunity to serve my fellow newlywed friends by leading a small group discussion based off the book “Feminine Appeal” by Carolyn Mahaney. The whole book centers on the passage of Scripture from Titus 2:3-5. After our first discussion last week, I had the idea to write a blog post as a brief synopsis of our discussion so that the ladies who were not able to make it would still be able to see what we talked about. I’ll try my best to make this a habit, but I’m not promising this for every week, seeing as how my blogging has been rather sub-par lately! Feel free to read along and join us in our discussion; just know that some of it might not make perfect sense unless you’re also following along in the book.

Chapter 1- Transformed by Titus 2

“Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good, so that they may encourage the younger women to love their husbands, love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored.” Titus 2:3-5

As we’ve discussed before, every Christian woman falls into the “older woman” and the “younger woman” category, because we are always being influenced by people, as well as influencing others (whether we recognize it or not.) Therefore, this entire passage of Scripture applies to every woman following Christ. This biblical mandate is one that I believe the Lord takes very seriously, yet is often overlooked. We are called to teach what is good. God defines what is good in the following seven virtues of a godly wife and mother.

Titus 2 has a direct way of helping us know whether what we are investing our lives in is truly important. It is the plumb line for women. By lining up our lives with this mandate, we can discern whether or not we are investing our lives in the things that God desires for us.

The purpose for developing these virtues in our own lives is not so that we will have the “perfect” family with traditional values and good morals nor to create law abiding citizens who contribute positively to society. While all these things are fine and good, the purpose is shown in verse 5, “so that the word of God will not be dishonored.”  By obeying Scripture, we are opening up an opportunity to display the gospel to the lost world.

The gospel has EVERYTHING to do with our pursuit of these virtues. If the gospel is not our goal, all of our efforts are in vain. They are worthless.

Mahaney talks about the story of a high-profile Christian woman (p. 27) whose poor decisions greatly influenced what the public thought of Christians. She graciously reminds us,

“Our conduct has a direct influence on how people think about the gospel. The world doesn’t judge us by our theology; the world judges us by our behavior. People don’t necessarily want to know what we believe about the Bible. They want to see if what we believe makes a difference in our lives. Our actions either bring honor to God or misrepresent His truth.”

Our actions make being a Christian look either unattractive or attractive. People are watching!

Verse 10 states, “so that they will adorn the doctrine of God our Savior in every respect.” The gospel cannot be improved! It’s perfect and complete exactly how it is. But we have the opportunity to adorn it and make it attractive to the world around us. Just as the main event of our wedding rings and engagement rings are the diamonds, if they were just sitting loose on a table, they would not look nearly as attractive. It is the setting and design of the ring that shows the diamonds at their best. Even more so, no one wants to wear a wedding ring with empty holes and prongs without the diamonds! If we offer the world a pretty setting without the gospel, our efforts are shallow and empty. Just like the diamonds are adorned to look their best in a wedding ring, we have the opportunity to put the gospel on beautiful display so that the world will be amazed and want to take ownership of it as well.

Bottom line? We are mandated by God to teach these things (loving our husbands, loving our children, self-control, purity, working at home, kindness, and submission) to younger women (whether that be in age or in spiritual journey) so that the effect will be the gospel spreading to the watching world.

Our Challenge: Who are the unbelievers watching your life (family, friends, co-workers)? How do you think you can make the gospel attractive by modeling these virtues?

Our Homework: In the discussion question section of the book, (page 162) we have two questions to answer in preparation for our meeting next week:

  1. Of the seven virtues listed in Titus 2–loving our husbands and children, self-control, purity, working at home, kindness, and submission–which one do you think your husband would most like you to grow in over the course of this study? Why? Ask your husband and return next week to share the answer.
  2. In what season of life do you find yourself (younger woman, older woman, mom of teenager, teenage daughter, single adult, etc.)? How can you fulfill the “mentoring mandate”?

Feel free to continue our discussion or ask any questions in the comments section. I’d love to hear some more perspectives and see what the Lord has spoken to you through your study!